Wednesday, November 16, 2005
Marriages increasingly becoming sour..
There are lots of cases of marriage discords, separations and divorces that are happening in Indian urban society. Lots of issues arise due to differences within the couple and their family members. And when the situation become uncontrollable, then both wife and husband have to approach courts with their exaggerated accusations towards each other. We cannot hold only one gender - as usual 'male' responsible for such problems, but both genders and all of us are equally responsible and are involved in every such social problem.
The Indian family and social customs, values, standards, roles and responsibilities are drastically changing due to education, social and media exposure, competition, new opportunities in life and higher cost of living standards. All this including various other reasons impact the family and society. The society is getting into chaos, being fragmented day by day when it’s heading for leading an individualistic, helpless and lonely life. Many children are getting only single parenting and loosing their desired love of a father or mother. Many old parents, teenagers and minors in families have suffered due to such disturbances, labeled as 'criminals' in exaggerated complaints mainly of 'dowry-demand harassment' filed under criminal laws of 498A and 406 of IPC, and get tortured in jails on complains by their Bahus, the Indian Daughter-In-Laws. Even the ‘top brass’ of Indian Society that includes NRIs, IAS, doctors, software professionals, engineers and highly educated people have been extremely tortured and suffered due to biased provisions of Indian laws that do not provide enough ability to prove their innocence in time-effective manner.
There should be a combined, sincere and selfless effort by social institutions, organisations, legislature, legal system and individuals to better understand the causes of any such problem right from its beginning and then to deal them with unbiased and positive attitude. As such cases are drastically increasing, so cannot be minimized by holding one person- the accused responsible, but all of us shall work collectively to genuinely workout peace and harmony in family and society.
The Indian family and social customs, values, standards, roles and responsibilities are drastically changing due to education, social and media exposure, competition, new opportunities in life and higher cost of living standards. All this including various other reasons impact the family and society. The society is getting into chaos, being fragmented day by day when it’s heading for leading an individualistic, helpless and lonely life. Many children are getting only single parenting and loosing their desired love of a father or mother. Many old parents, teenagers and minors in families have suffered due to such disturbances, labeled as 'criminals' in exaggerated complaints mainly of 'dowry-demand harassment' filed under criminal laws of 498A and 406 of IPC, and get tortured in jails on complains by their Bahus, the Indian Daughter-In-Laws. Even the ‘top brass’ of Indian Society that includes NRIs, IAS, doctors, software professionals, engineers and highly educated people have been extremely tortured and suffered due to biased provisions of Indian laws that do not provide enough ability to prove their innocence in time-effective manner.
There should be a combined, sincere and selfless effort by social institutions, organisations, legislature, legal system and individuals to better understand the causes of any such problem right from its beginning and then to deal them with unbiased and positive attitude. As such cases are drastically increasing, so cannot be minimized by holding one person- the accused responsible, but all of us shall work collectively to genuinely workout peace and harmony in family and society.
# posted by Nishant Kumar @ 4:47 AM 
